“Oh, this stage is the best! Enjoy every moment, the time passes so quickly!”
By now you’ve probably heard this a hundred different times in a hundred different ways from well-meaning family, friends and even strangers in the grocery store. Comments like these used to make my head spin and start the feelings of inadequacy + mummy guilt bubbling up in my stomach. I would think of all the things I didn’t particularly enjoy about being a new mum, all the things I may have done wrong and all the little things I’d already forgotten about/didn’t get a picture of. I think this kind of talk about babies and motherhood doesn’t do new parents any favours. Because, guess what? the world doesn’t suddenly slow down and become safe, softly back-lit and calm so babies always look like this… and mums feel totally comfortable and confident all the time. There are times when you will feel like this… and there will be moments you can’t wait to finish and forget about. Memory is a funny thing, so I don’t think that the people who tell you to “enjoy every moment” are intentionally trying to put extra pressure on new parents, they probably just have the luxury of having forgotten lots and lots and lots of the unpleasant bits over the years.
I love to see parents out there supporting each other and being real about the challenges of raising little people. I feel like I didn’t let myself see/experience a lot of the little rewarding parts of being a new mum when I was so busy trying to make every moment perfect and memorable. Maybe that’s why I’m so excited about being a contributor in the New Mama Welcome Pack!
So let’s get real here. The truth is there are lots of hard moments…
Remembering to take care of yourself and give yourself time to heal physically and emotionally after birth is hard. Nursing is so, amazing and its also so, so hard. Dealing with everyone’s advice and opinions is hard. Admitting that you can’t do it all by yourself and asking for help is really hard. Making a million decision every day for someone you just met is super hard. And sleep (or rather, lack of sleep) is probably the hardest thing of all, because it makes everything else that much harder! At the beginning it can feel like you’re stuck in survival mode with no time or energy for anything else, but that’s totally normal and that’s totally okay. You’re doing the very best you can and it’s enough.
So here are some words of wisdom from this mummy who has been there and still remembers…
Please be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself, your partner and your baby. Remember you are doing an amazing job and no one will ever love that little baby like you do. Decide and then focus on what is important to you and your new little family. And each day, try to find just one thing, one smile or one moment that brings you joy. If you get the chance to write it down or take a picture, great. If not, no worries, there’s another beautiful, joyful parenting moment on it’s way to you right now.
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